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Youth Soccer Club Kailua, Hawaii

Escola Coxa: Coach-Parent Partnership

2018-19 Season

As a parent representing your child and Escola Coxa Hawaii, please try your best to adhere to the following set of behaviors and beliefs set by the coaching staff in order to maximize our full potential and continue building a successful culture that benefits our athletes. The following points below are guidelines on how you can contribute to our Coach-Parent Partnership Pledge adopted from the Positive Coaching Alliance (PCA)

1. Support and Recognize the Coaches’ Commitment. Your child's coaches have made a commitment that involves many hours of preparation beyond the time spent at practices and games and outside of the season. Please respect their commitment and imagine yourself in their place before approaching them to discuss any issues you may perceive. While in the team setting, it is the coach’s responsibility to focus on specifics of teaching life lessons and skills, game strategies, what position an athlete specializes in, running games, etc. It’s the parents’ responsibility to praise their son’s and coaches effort.

2. Always Make Positive Contact with the Coaches. Establishing a positive relationship with the coaches will help you proactively shape a positive experience for your son and will lay the foundation for respectful and productive conversations with coaches should a conflict arise later. 

3. “24 Hour Rule”  Parents should not approach a coach with a concern after a game or contest. Rather, a parent should call and set up a time with the coach that is convenient for both and after the “emotions” have died down. Coaches also want parents to believe that the decisions they make are made in good faith and that they may not always make the right decision regarding an athlete or game strategy.

4.  Please Don’t Put the Athlete in the Middle. Please don’t share your disapproval of a coach or teammates decision making with your son present. Doing so may force your son to take sides. This will also help avoid planting negative seeds in your son’s head that can influence their motivation and overall experience on the TEAM. If your son has an issue regarding playing time or an issue with the coach or a particular teammate and can maturely articulate it, encourage your son to responsibly approach the coach for communication FIRST, and at the very least learn some life lessons in self-advocacy with their coach/teacher. Otherwise, if you disapprove of how the coach handles a situation, seek a private meeting to discuss the matter.

5. Let the Coaches Coach. During Practices and Games, It can confuse players to hear someone other than the coach communicating instructions. Also, your instructions may counter the coaches’ strategy and tactics, undermining team performance. There should be absolutely, "No-Directions/Sideline Coaching" in the stands at all during practices and games. Avoid yelling directions (“Shoot, Get Open, Pass” etc.). Focus on encouragement and positive reinforcement. It’s very easy to become emotional on the sidelines of your son’s games so try your best to only cheer. During practices, observing and watching your son for lengthy periods of time is NOT encouraged or recommended for a variety of psychological reasons. For example, you wouldn't go to your son's math class and sit and watch from the side or back and him knowing you're there. Our coaches would be glad to discuss this with you in a private one on one meeting if needed. If you really want to come by and observe or are waiting around the field, the last 30 min. of a practice would be appropriate.

6. Fill Your Son’s Emotional Tank. Soccer can be stressful to your son mentally and physically and may not seem/look FUN at times. The last thing your son needs is family critiquing their performance, another athlete’s performance, or coach. This is on top of what the coach may deliver and what they already are telling themselves mentally. Let your son know you love and support them regardless of their performance. Use positive encouragement to fill the Emotional Tanks of your: son, his teammates, and coaches.

7. Contribute to the Positive Environment. Fill all the players’ Emotional Tanks when you see them doing something well and/or make contact with them after a game. Honor the Game as a spectator, respecting ROOTS (Rules, Opponents, Officials, Teammates, and Self), and encourage others around you to Honor the Game. Please support the referees. Mistakes will be made. Remember some of them are only a few years older than your son.  Respect their efforts and encourage your son to do the same. If the official makes a “bad” call against our team, please Honor the Game! Please understand that “without sportsmanship we really have nothing at all worth having in school sports.”

7. Reinforce the ELM Tree of Mastery (E = Effort, L = Learning, M = Bouncing Back From Mistakes). Please understand that a mastery approach will help your son be successful in life and sports. Encourage your son to:

· put in a high level of Work Ethic to get better,

· cultivate a Teachable & Learning Spirit that focuses on improvement/learning,

· use a Mistake Ritual (e.g., “flushing mistakes”) to quickly rebound from mistakes.

8. Playing Time and Roster Decisions. If the athlete has a question/concern regarding their playing time and evaluation process, he should discuss this directly with the coach. Please encourage your son to approach the coach first for a conference. Then if still not satisfied, a coach-parent-athlete meeting may be necessary. The amount of playing time each player receives is determined by evaluation in the following areas of: character traits and abilities, communication, psychological mindset, physical aspects, technical skill abilities w/o the ball, and tactical awareness. We also follow a simple mindset we call DR. PT, which stands for:

D = Dedication, R= Respect, P= Passion, and T= Teamwork.

9. Parent-Coach Meetings. While the ideal situation is for the player to talk to the coach about any challenges he/she is having, we understand there is a time when parents may feel the need to advocate for their child. If parents would like to meet with the Coach to discuss an issue, they will need to find a time outside of practice and game days/times. 

· Call and make an appointment to talk with the Coach

· If still unsatisfied or if you do not feel comfortable approaching the coach, make an appointment to talk to the Director of Coaching



Volunteer Positions

Team Manager/Treasurer:
•    Primary role is communicating with the team, including but not limited to sharing the practice schedule, game schedule, and tournament information
•    Make sure all players are registered
•    May assist in determining team budget and collecting tournament fees

Fundraising Representative:
•    Helps the club administrator identify and coordinate fundraising opportunities

Club Tent:
•    Responsible for getting the team tent to and from games, as well as the tent set up and take down
•    Requires a large vehicle

Team Bench:
•    Responsible for getting the team bench to and from games

Community Service Coordinator:
•   Help to identify and keep older players informed of community service opportunities

Contact the Club Director or Club Administrator if you would like to take on one of these rolls. 

 All volunteers must register online to complete a national background check clearance.
 Click HERE to find out how to register with HYSA

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